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The Healing of Commitment

Dr. S. Patois DeSandies

The late Dr. S. Patois DeSandies, mother of the groom, at a family reunion

Marriage is one thing, commitment is another thing, and unity is a third, wondrous thing. All three go together and heal the people involved.

The singles among us may focus on the breach in unity and commitment that leads to a breach in marriage.

However, the first breach is the breakaway from our heartfelt desire –taking what is not good for the soul– replacing it with the body-mind or physical image of commitment and unity.

What’s good for the soul has to be uppermost. It is resilient, and when the soul is knocked up or knocked down, it welcomes bedrest for spiritual health to rise again.

Body healing occurs when tissue-building and molecular activity work in unified fashion to make our skins and organs whole.

Emotional healing –melding the yearnings of spirit, mind and body– often occurs through the partners we choose to mirror and complement our life journey, with joy, tranquility and contentment.

Soular healing is of course both. With the soular partner we choose, we can take bedrest, be content, and heal together.

Healing in the first place, within your Self, is likely to mean a long-lasting contribution to the individual and group that loves you.

Healing in the second place, within your group and culture, is likely to mean joyous longevity for your clan, and for the human beings and souls inhabiting your universe.

This is what I am reminded of when I attend weddings.

I have always believed that harmony and cohesion of the human race begins with the unified commitment offered by the institution of marriage.

If it is “solid as a rock,” it is sacred and the purpose of the union –to BE for generations to come– has been achieved.

If you are single, all this marriage talk is for you partnering with your Spirit. The repair, healing, commitment and unity begins there.

Enjoy these photographs of my cousin’s wedding in Jamaica on Nov. 19. His mother, Patois DeSandies, was like a sister to me. The DeSandies clan lives on.

–Rev. Niamo Nancy Muid